The public perception of marriage today is so severely mutated from the truth of what it is; we cannot imagine the graces that a man and woman receive when they live a marriage in the manner God intended. We cannot understand how drastically such a fundamental building block of the civil order has been altered and how that has produced such disastrous conditions in our society.
Firstly – in its basic and proper form, marriage is only between one man and one woman, for the natural life of the first to pass away, with no contraception of children for any reason, with each person loving the other without reservation or of the requirement of reciprocity. There is no such thing as divorce. This is indeed the basic building block of any rational and peaceful society. This provides for the continuation of the human race and provides for the consistency of laws, skills and social responsibility over the ribbon of time. Most importantly, this accords with the will of God.
While that is the standard of excellence, the standard set by our Lord Jesus Christ, we have strayed away from that. It is likely that the most common error embraced by married people today is contraception. Practicing contraception, by anyone, for any reason was universally prohibited by every Christian tradition, established church in the world until 1930. The first organized church to crack open that door was the Anglican Church of England. At their Lambeth Conference of 1930 their bishops ever so reluctantly, ever so restrictively prescribed very narrow conditions wherein a married couple could, for the gravest of reasons, contracept:
Resolutions from 1930
The Life and Witness of the Christian Community - Marriage and Sex
Where there is clearly felt moral obligation to limit or avoid parenthood, the method must be decided on Christian principles. The primary and obvious method is complete abstinence from intercourse (as far as may be necessary) in a life of discipline and self-control lived in the power of the Holy Spirit. Nevertheless in those cases where there is such a clearly felt moral obligation to limit or avoid parenthood, and where there is a morally sound reason for avoiding complete abstinence, the Conference agrees that other methods may be used, provided that this is done in the light of the same Christian principles. The Conference records its strong condemnation of the use of any methods of conception control from motives of selfishness, luxury, or mere convenience.
Voting: For 193; Against 67. Lambeth Conference 1930
This resolution is flawed from the start due to the salient fact that you cannot commit any grave evil on “Christian principles”. Notice how they condemn contraception for “motives of selfishness, luxury, or mere convenience”. That describes perfectly the motives of everyone contracepting today. Once this resolution was adopted, by the Anglicans it was a short run to acceptance by every “Christian” denomination except the Holy Roman Catholic Church. While the entire world expected the Catholic Church to come along on this, in 1968 she issued the papal encyclical Humanae Vitae in which she correctly labels contraception a grave evil and declares to the entire world that no one may commit such an act for any reason. Unfortunately, by that time, the cat was out of the bag and the vast majority of the peoples of the western world believed the lies and regarded the Catholic declaration to be irrelevant.
The great lie was, that allowing contraception, within marriages, would strengthen those marriages due to a lower “burden” of children. In reality, contraception diminished the sacred and self-pledging bond that husbands and wives held and reduced them to a weird social contract which could be broken at will. Reducing the marital embrace to recreation reduced the mutual esteem required to sustain marriage in this hard world. Divorce rose drastically in the years following 1930.
Sex without consequences soon became the normal attitude. Infidelity in marriage and singles “hooking up” is now expected. Today there are more couples living together outside of marriage than within. Now, many of the nations of the western world have reduced their birth rates to levels which cannot sustain their current populations. But wait…there’s more.
Once the wives had fewer children they were not allowed to sit around and enjoy their more leisurely lives, they were sent to work. The effect of that was to reduce the family wages by half so that today both spouses must work to support a family. Rather than fulfilling her nature as a nurturing wife and mother the “liberated” woman of today is a field mule by day and a concubine by night. Working mothers bring the need for the day care industry, which reduces the take home wages significantly, and shifts the training and nurturing of our children to strangers who have little interest in the outcome.
It gets worse. Since sex is now simply a recreational activity, then women are treated with less respect than ever. We have a huge abortion industry to support the “no consequences” philosophy and we run these poor used women through it every day to take care of “their” biological problem, with devastating damage to their psychological balance.
It goes on. Same sex marriage makes sense if the real thing is no longer sacred or permanent. Germany has petting zoos wherein visitors are allowed to go “all the way” with the animals. Down, down, down we drive the boundaries of decency and morality.
Sex always has consequences. Within a lawful, church sanctioned marriage, without contraception, the consequences are love, peace, children and stable societies. Outside of such a marriage, the consequences are all of the above noted maladies with the worst consequence of all to come – you do not get to heaven, you do not feel the love of God, you suffer in hell.
We must fight this terrible lie. Tell anyone who talks of “girlfriends” or “boyfriends” or expresses support for any of these gravely wrong sins, the truth. Fight for these lost souls because you love them as Christ loves us all.